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Chad - Now a
memory in my heart...
Born June
13, 1981, Chad was a solid 9 lbs 1
oz, beautiful red hair, ready to take on the
world. He grew up as a child
in a single parent home never
being deprived of anything his
heart desired. He attended
Catholic school and became an
alter boy. He was kind and
sweet, a heart made of gold.
He brought a smile to everyone who
knew him, he was very special.
He practiced Karate and played
baseball when he was very young.
He played sports from the moment
he could get out on the fields.
Football was his passion, he loved
it from day one, and continued to
love and play the sport through
high school. Chad attended
Derry Area school district and
became very popular with his
classmates. He was fun
loving, a real comedian at times.
He had the greatest comebacks in
any conversation. He played
football for the Derry Trojans and
was one of the team captains his
senior year. Chad had
overcome several injuries during
his football career, but it never
left him stop playing. He
even broke his hip his senior
year, and managed to get out and
play senior night and the rest of
the season. He begged the
doctors for a release, cause the
game meant the world to him.
If you would like to read the
story on his determination, I have
scanned the article for your
review. Chad graduated from
Derry in 1999, his family very
proud of his accomplishment.
He then attended community college
a year, but found out that was not
his interest. In high school
he took courses in CAD (Computer
Aided Drafting) and wanted to
pursue his interest in this field.
He also worked for Latrobe
Plastics while in school in the
Mechanical Drawing office.
This was his passion, and he
wanted to continue education in
this field. He then enrolled
at Triangle Tech for an associates
degree in Mechanical Engineering.
He attended the fall of 2000. Chad
worked full time for Tech Spec in
Derry on the afternoon shift while
attending Tech School. He
wanted to work while attending
school to have those little extras
he always wanted. Chad
bought a 1995 Jeep in fall of
2000, this was the one thing he
really set his heart on, and he
got it. He worked hard for
everything he had, he knew what it
meant to earn his own way.
Chad lived at home with my husband
and myself, in Loyalhanna and only
went out with his friends on the
weekends. Chad was a
follower, and I feel to this day
that is what took my sons life
away. He always wanted to
fit in with the crowd. He
got mixed up with the wrong crowd
in the fall of 2000, unknown to
myself. He always had a time
to come in each night, and that
time was strictly enforced.
Chad gave me a kiss each and every
night when he came home and would
tell me goodnight after discussing
the nights events. Then the
night came that changed my life
forever. Chad came home
around 3:00am Christmas eve
morning, the year 2000. He
came to my room, talked about
seeing his friends home from
college, and the plans he had for
the week after Christmas. He
couldn't wait to go skiing with
some friends from high school. He
showed me two cards that two girls
had given him that evening, he
seemed so excited. He then
kissed me goodnight and told me he
loved me. That was last time
I saw my son alive. I went
in to awaken Chad the next morning
at 10:00 am to find him not
breathing. My life was over,
and all I wanted to do was take
his place. God only knows
why he took my son that night.
The coroner arrived and sent his
body to Pittsburgh for an autopsy.
Cyril Wecht (Allegheny County
Pathologist) called me that
evening about 5:00 to tell me the
results of the autopsy.
It was so shocking, but yet I want
people to know what happened to my
son. In his blood stream was
phentynol and cocaine. The amount
they found was not enough to kill
a big, strong healthy 19 year old.
So they searched further to find
my son had a pre-existing heart
condition with some damage to his
heart. And the combination of the
drugs and his condition caused him
to have massive heart failure. The
coroner predicted my son died
shortly after going to sleep, not
surviving more than an hour.
It was devastating to hear this, I
was a parent who asked all the
questions, kept in touch all the
time via cell phone. I
always knew where he was, but just
not what he was doing. He seemed
perfectly fine when he went to bed
that night. I do not blame Chad
for the mistake he made, I just
hope that those of you who read
this will realize, you could be
the next victim. So if you
have even thought of trying drugs,
remember, death is possible
without over-dosing.
There is no way to know how each
persons body will react...don't
think "it can't happen to me",
cause it did to my son. I
remember the words he told me that
very afternoon when we talked
about going out that evening, I
did not want him to drink and if
he did I told him to call me. The
words that stick in my mind to
this day are the words Chad said
to me while lying on the couch
that very afternoon... "Mom, I'm
not going to be a statistic." We
had a great relationship and
discussed everything and I always
believed, he would never even try
a drug, let alone it ever take his
precious life away so soon.
But now he is a statistic, the
first to pass in his graduating
class, he will be missed by many.
To those of you with children, I
can not advise what I could have
done different. I was a
great parent to my son, and will
hold his memories with me until
the day I join him again. I just
know that unless you ever
experience this pain inside, you
could never know what I am going
through. So please don't
walk up to me and say you know how
I feel, cause the death of your
only child is the worst death to
experience. So when you look
at your children each and
everyday, hold those moments as
precious, as I will never hold my
son in my arms again, nor see him
grow older, or have a grandchild
to love, as my future will be
lonely because I lost my one
and only son CHAD.
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